Wednesday, 22 July 2015

The Silent Killer



This post is probably one of the hardest posts I'll ever do... but I have to, I need to and I want to write it to raise awareness of this silent killer.


18 months ago something happened that made my whole world shatter into millions of pieces and change my life forever. I knew things would never ever be the same again and I knew I would never ever be complete, a piece of me was gone forever.....I lost my mum.

It all started in mid December 2013 when  my mum complained about abdominal pain and said that she felt like she had pulled a muscle in her tummy. After a week there was no change so she had a telephone appointment with the doctor who advised her they would see her face to face if there was no change in another week. 

The week passed with no change so she went to see the doctor who examined her, took some blood and referred her for an ultrasound. Between Christmas and New Year the doctors rang mum to say the blood results had come back and shown markers so they were making the ultrasound appointment urgent and she was given a date in early January. This date came and we went for the ultrasound which showed something on her ovary but nothing conclusive so she was referred for a consultant appointment. 

Mum was getting progressively worse over the next 4wks and we were back and forward to the doctors managing the pain relief. By early February mum was told she needed a biopsy on whatever was on her ovary to see if it was cancerous. This date was the 14th February but mum was rapidly going downhill so fast that within days she had gone from pottering about the house to sofa bound. 

The day of the biopsy came and she went into hospital where they told her she was too ill to have the biopsy. She had by this stage lost a lot of weight as she'd lost her appetite totally. On the Sunday they did the biopsy and on the Monday we were told she had stage 4 ovarian cancer that was terminal.

We knew she would never come home, it was obvious how rapidly downhill she was going that it was a very aggressive form of cancer. On the Wednesday they agreed to try chemotherapy but less than half the recommended dose as she was so weak. On the Thursday she really  seemed to perk up and asked to go outside in the wheelchair which was amazing as she had been bedbound for 10 days by this point only getting up to go to the toilet.

Early Friday morning we had a call to say she had taken a turn for the worse and lost consciousness so we made our way to the hospital but by the time we got there she was gone. Cancer had beaten her.

From the first symptom to the day she died was just 9 weeks. She was diagnosed on the Monday and died on the Friday. The cancer was so aggressive even the doctors were shocked how quickly it had attacked, taken over and won. 

Ovarian cancer is known as 'the silent killer' because sometimes there are no symptoms until the disease is at an advanced stage. Early symptoms are often mild and can be mistaken for other things which are less serious and more common making this disease difficult to detect. 

Here are some symptoms to watch for....



There is no routine screening or testing available for ovarian cancer  but there is a blood test and ultrasound scan that came be done to help diagnosis or rule out which is why it is so so important to visit the doctor if there is any concern at all.

The NHS website and also the following charities have lots of useful information and support available on their website, click the logo's to take you there... 

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Cancer-of-the-ovary/Pages/Introduction.aspx

http://www.targetovariancancer.org.uk/

http://www.beatonline.info/

http://www.ovacome.org.uk/

http://ovarian.org.uk/



RIP My Beautiful Mum
15/12/1950-21/02/2014
Aged 63 years old



Please share and help raise awareness of this silent killing disease.




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24 comments:

  1. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't even imagine what you are going through. You are very brave to write this post but I think that it is a very important one to have written. I will share it on all my social media channels. It is so important to raise awareness of this. Hugs xx.

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  2. Thank you Bek, I really appreciate it. I will never ever get over such a huge loss but I have learnt to live with it which is all I can do to get through each day and be a mum to my own children. Thank you for sharing and help raise awareness x

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  3. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for finding the strength to raise awareness and help others x

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  4. O my word; so very sad. Thanks for sharing to raise awareness. I can't even imagine how devastating this must be for you. Hopefully, more people can be diagnosed earlier. Thanks for sharing. I'll be sharing too. #TheBloggingMumsClub

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    1. Thank you for your kind words aNoviceMum x

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  5. What a brave post, Thank you for sharing I really am sorry for your loss xx

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  6. Aw hun I am sorry for you loss, there are no words but thank you for sharing the post x

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  7. My heart goes out to you - I lost my cousin to an aggressive cancer on New Year's Day - we only knew he had cancer about 8 weeks before it took him. It's heartbreaking, but thank you for sharing the post about your lovely mum x

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  8. How awful. I am so so sorry for your loss. My best friend lost her Mum to Ovarian Cancer when we were 16. It's so true when people say it's a silent killer. Thanks for sharing this post.

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  9. I'm so sorry for your loss. My Story is quite similar except my lovely Mum passed away from a different type of Cancer.

    well done for raising awareness x

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  10. So sorry to hear that. It's a horrible disease. A friend's mother has it and it's such a bully. x

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  11. I am so, so sorry, Gemma, cancer is an awful, awful thing, we know it first hand as we lost our baby boy to leukaemia last year. I am here if you want to talk. I will be sharing this on my Facebook page. Hugs.

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  12. I'm so sorry to hear this, it all happened so quickly too. It's great that you are helping to raise awareness, there seems to be very little information around x

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  13. What a brave post - we don't talk about some forms of cancer enough it seems to be one of those taboo words. Thank you so much for sharing. x

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  14. So sorry you lost your lovely Mum but Bravo for raising awareness about this silent killer. Big hugs x

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  15. I am so sorry for you loss. I lost an aunt to it and had my ovaries removed as I have BRCA2 and was diagnosed with a 60% change of getting it. Sending love and understanding

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  16. I am so sorry to hear about your beautiful mum, but it is great that you are raising awareness.

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  17. I'm so sorry to read this. Lots of love to you all. xx

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  18. I am so sorry to hear this but raising awareness is so very important and I applaud you for that x

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  19. I am so sorry. I lost my aunt to ovarian cancer in 2012. It was a hard to detect then. Thank you for raising awareness. Thank you for sharing with #Alittlebitofeverything.

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  20. I am so sorry hun. What an awful thing to happen so quickly. But thank you so much for sharing this post and raising awareness. These are the posts that always stick in your head for a good reason. Thanks so much for sharing with #bestandworst and see you again xx

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  21. I am so sorry for your loss. Kudos to you for sharing your story and speaking out. We women need to take care of ourselves more, not that there is anything we can do in some cases. I am shocked at how quickly this struck. Thank you for making us aware of what to watch for. xx

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  22. You are very courageous for sharing and raising awareness. I'm so sorry for your loss x
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