Tuesday, 2 June 2015

This sums up my life...'dear sleep deprived mum'

Found a post that pretty much sums up my life right now! 

Where's that god damn light, this tunnel is so bloody long :(

Here it is......

"Dear Sleep Deprived Mum,

It is a myth that all babies sleep through the night by the time they are six months old. If your baby is not sleeping through the night (however old they are), you are not alone.

It is a truth that many mothers lie about how well their babies sleep. So, rule number one of coping with sleep deprivation should be: don’t compare your baby to other babies.

Now we’ve got that out of the way, hear this: YOU ARE DOING AN AMAZING JOB. It probably doesn’t feel like it at 2am, when the baby’s howling and you’re crying silent tears of exhausted frustration, but you are. You really are.

Sleep deprivation is the hardest part of new motherhood. It will get better. It will get easier.

People to ignore after a particularly bad night: the ones who brag that their baby is an amazing sleeper, the ones who offer you lots of sleep advice (I know – you’ve already tried everything), the ones who say things like, “It must be awful for you” (in your irrational sleep-deprived state you will hear their sympathetic noises as patronisingly annoying), the ones who tell you to, “Sleep when the baby sleeps” (it’s not always possible – I know).

Be kind to yourself. Rest when you can and eat what you like. Keep telling yourself you’re doing an amazing job. This is important.

Do whatever you need to do to maximise your sleep. This means different things to different people. For me, it means sharing a bed with my baby (it’s the only way I can stay sane – otherwise, I’d have had six months of no sleep as my baby cried in her cot). Find whatever works for you and then go with it.

Seize any offer of help with open arms – don’t struggle on alone if you don’t have to. We all have limits, admitting them doesn’t mean you’re failing at motherhood. (At my lowest point, when my head felt like it was full of black treacle and my eyes burned and itched with a lack of sleep, I passed the baby to my mum and went to bed for four hours.)

When things get really tough, and you feel like you can’t survive another broken night where you get two minutes’ sleep, remember that you’re not the only one pacing the kitchen at 3am. You’re not the first and you won’t be the last. Misery loves company, so knowing that you’re not alone might help. Something else that helps: biscuits.

Don’t waste time Googling “Why won’t my baby sleep?” when your baby eventually falls to sleep. Instead, SLEEP.

Remember, this phase will come to an end – possibly sooner than you think – and you will get more sleep eventually. Until then know that it’s OK to admit sleep deprivation is utterly hideous, it’s OK to cry and it’s OK to mourn the days you used to have a lie-in until midday. It doesn’t make you a bad mum.

Yours,

Another Sleep Deprived Mum x"


Copied from baby.co.uk

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